In a single day, 140 character twitters tell the world that I had my coffee and am omw to the gym. Two sentences on Facebook let over 300 friends know that I did all my errands with a pencil sticking out of my ponytail because I spent the morning editing. On Yahoo Instant Messenger, my contacts see I am drinking wine and listening to Poe. A Myspace frowny face tells people even before they read my snippet, that I can’t be bothered by pettiness.

What’s the solution?
To visit these places less? To stop writing status messages? To refine the reasons I started any of these internet social pages to begin with?

I know that the blog is useful when it jump starts a writing day.
Facebook helps me connect with other writers and feel the camaraderie.
Twitter might be good if you’re at an event that others can’t attend…but frankly,
Myspace has become an eyesore and a place I rarely visit.
(Though I keep one to check on my kids.)

Here’s where the pithy and concise parts collide.
I had an idea when I first started blogging in 2005, that I would follow my path to publication. I had a novel and I was querying agents and marketing myself to the world. I had a plan.
And it worked.
I published a fair share of short stories, essay and articles, won some awards, met lots of folks and just recently landed an agent.
It’s all good.

But I wasn’t writing with focus. I was just writing- about trips and family and friends and parties and shopping and shoes. Oh yes, shoes. And authors and books and kids and dogs and life. Each post starting with a single word that opened up an idea, a self commentary that may have been a phone call if I didn’t despise the phone. It might have been a conversation with a friend over coffee, if I had friends that I could meet over coffee. They became pithy blog posts that might have been called diary entries if this was 1982.

Maybe that is exactly what was supposed to happen. Maybe that’s what these social outlets have become- a combination of journaling for those of us who need to be heard – and some that don’t- Lord, do not get me started on the stream of consciousness bloggers… I can see the benefit of re-connecting with our past by finding old friends and classmates, even hunting for jobs. Of course for some, these social pages are a further connection to their future as they seek friends, romance, or just a cyber-connection virtual date.

There is no wrong or right way to use social networks, just the way that works for you. (though if your boss, your kid or your Grandma is one of your connections you probably need to watch your content more).
A writer friend said that if blogging takes away your urge to write the “real stuff” you need to stop, or at least place limits, and if you are spending more time on Facebook playing games and poking around people’s friends lists, than finishing your wordcount for the day, you really need to unplug your modem.

Unplug. That is about as concise as it gets.

I couldn’t help thinking movie plots… girl meets boy, girl and boy connect, girl and boy marry, boy meets up with old frineds on facebook, neglects to check the married box and starts up internet love affair, girl suspects and wants to hack account to prove herself right, girl falls for hacker who exposes cheating boy…

Or something like that.
But it’s probably already been done.

And also, you CAN buy software that does effectively hack passwords and keystrokes, and site visits… I won’t tell you where. I’m just sayin’.

At any rate, I unfriended and ungrouped and uncluttered my FB, but I was still thinking about the password thing, how I use lots of different ones for all my accounts, how I have to write them down, because I am afraid if I use the password keeper on the computer, I will forget the password to open IT, and then, I will be screwed.
When I forget a password and if I can’t find where I wrote it, I have to set it all up again, which in this day requires a security question. Most of them are stupid and I lie.

“What street did you grow up on?”
I say MAIN STREET, because even if I get Alzheimer’s, I will know MAIN STREET.

As I was thinking about all of this a friend told me how she had forgotten a password she thought she’d never have to re-use and was mortified when she had to call in to retrieve it, and the security question the guy was required to ask her was, “To whom did you lose your virginity?”
We laughed, but I think she was a little offended when I asked her if she knew the answer.

Now, back to packing.